Whenever I feel dark and ungrounded, there are certain things that bring my feet back on the floor. One is being in nature-- there's something about being in a beautiful natural place that really makes silly troubles seem silly.
Another is gratitude, and reflecting on what I and others are thankful for. Like this "thank you" note I got years ago after leaving a job.
I just wanted to tell you that you are a Rock Star and I’m sad to see you go. I don’t know, and it probably isn’t any of my business, where you’re going or why you’re leaving but I wish you the best in future endeavors.
Not only are you an excellent programmer (in my untechnological opinion), but you are awesome with clients, and just an all around great person. Both of my kids have been talking off and on about ‘that girl computer programmer at my work’ from when they were in the office this summer. I know you didn’t have to take your time to talk to and engage with them that day, but you did it anyway and made them feel really special. Don’t ever underestimate how much little things like that mean to the development of young minds and interest in technology, math, and science. It was really cool for my daughter to see that a girl can work with computers and it has given us more than one opportunity to talk to her about the fact that girls can do anything they want to do for a job.
Best of luck to you, I hope our paths will cross again one day.
Keeping something like that near can instantly lift me out of a dark place. I recommend everyone has the same kind of gratitude first aid kit handy, and perhaps make some "thank you" notes for others to equip themselves with too. :)
And it's a reminder of what really matters. I worked there for a year and a half, I worked way too many hours crafting experiences and working on my skills. But what mattered most out of all of that time was spending time with a little boy and a little girl when they visited the office one day.
And it also reminds me of what Lara Hogan reiterates in her writings -- the people we meet are humans above all else, regardless if we work with them and leave. We should focus on keeping in touch with people who touch our lives in positive ways regardless of the situation.
It's easy to let the truly important moments fade into the background.